What Do I Actually Want?

As I’m sure you know, setting/ having and meeting goals, making the most, accomplishing, having a vision and working towards that vision, living a full life, figuring out what I want from life and working to make that a reality, having things to work towards and seizing opportunities is always on my mind and blog! However you want to put it, goals are important; working towards your goals are important.

But part of all of the above, working towards set goals etc is about accepting that change is inevitable, especially as we get older and we get to know ourselves better. We change, things change and circumstances change. Having said that, it’s important to review what we actually want as this is bound to change too. I’ve come up with a couple of tips that you may find useful when figuring out what exactly you want from life, and how best to review your goals to ensure they are always in line with your vision and where you are in that moment.

  1. If you don’t already know what you want out of life, sit down and figure it out. Once you have an idea, jot some goals down ensuring to keep in mind that these may change at a later date.
  2. Think about where you are now and where you see yourself in x amount of years. What are you passionate about? Think about who you are as a person and why you are who you are. You may discover a goal just from considering some of these things.
  3. Do some experimenting, get experience; you might stumble across your passion, which may lead you to discover your goals.
  4. Always have you overall goals in mind, but break these goals down, maybe create a yearly ‘things to accomplish’ list to help get you one step closer to achieving the big goals.
  5. Create a vision board, keep it where you will always see it and ensure to review it once in a while and tick off things that you’ve accomplished.
  6. Make a conscious effort to evaluate every part of your life and decide if you’re happy with where you are and where you’d like to be. If you evaluate effectively, you might find that some of your goals have changed, you may have new goals or you may no longer have a desire to fulfill an existing goal. Reflect and amend you overall goal list accordingly.
  7. Set a time to review your goals, for example once a year. Ensure to review your goals following a change in your life, for example the loss of a loved one, the death of a relationship and/ or discovering something you love that you never knew you did. 
  1. ‘Don’t ask kids what they want to be when they grow up but what problems do they want to solve. This changes the conversation from who do I want to work for, to what do I need to learn to be able to do that’. (Jaime Casap, Google Global Education Evangelist). Asking questions like this can help you to figure out where you’d like to be in the future.

With regards to point 7, I wanted to explain further. I suggest reviewing your goals after a change in your life- specifically the death of a relationship or the loss of a loved one- as I realised how easy it is to get caught up in the lives of others, specifically those we love. It’s sometimes hard to see how much others influence us, and how much they rub off on us. At times, what we want and what they want intertwine, so we think we want what they want when really we don’t. I had a friend who had the strongest desire to travel the world- really travel. And although I’d love to travel as well, I realised that something wasn’t quite right- our versions of travelling were, although very similar, vastly different. After the death of our friendship, it became clear that my need to travel was nowhere near as high as hers was.

I don’t really want to say that we lose ourselves, but the fact of the matter is that sometimes we do. I will always stand by the importance of reviewing goals as I believe it allows you to stay true to yourself and your journey. It’s so important. Feel free to read: Implementing Change: Young Progress Makers 2/2, where I refer to the importance of staying true to yourself and the change you want to see- or in this case- the goals you want to achieve.

Set and achieve your goals unapologetically.

Until Thursday

Rebekah

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