In life, we are sometimes faced with difficult decisions. Sometimes we can work through our problems alone, but sometimes it takes someone else to help us find our way.
No matter how big or small, the choices we make can have positive or negative impacts on our lives. Although we learn from these experiences and we learn to heal from the choices we may have made that we regret, it’s important to think about what we are faced with and how this may affect us in the future.
Where I understand that wrong choices encourage growth and shape us as humans, I also understand the importance of being comfortable with every choice that is made. We should accept the fact that there are things that are out of our control; although taking a step/making a choice may not be the best choice, taking a leap involves being able to stand firm in the choices we make.
When faced with decisions that will have a heavier impact on us/ our lives, be it cutting someone off, ending a relationship, quitting a job or risking it all to pursue a dream, career or business venture, ensure to consider the possibilities and know in your heart, that you are comfortable with the choice you have or you are about to make.
Sometime ago, I learnt that although seeking wise counsel is great, it’s important to be at peace with your choice, it’s important to take the advice in, but to know that ultimately, you decide where you go from there. As harsh as it may sound, the reality is that once you’ve made a decision (specifically based off of something someone said) two or three years down the line, the people you sought advice from probably won’t remember what they said. So if you realise you made a mistake or you sit down one day and wonder why you listened to them or you start to regret the choice(s) you made, you can’t blame them because ultimately, it was your choice to make.
So, to anyone who is faced with a difficult decision(s), I recommend seeking God for direction/ confirmation, considering all of the possibilities, seeking wise counsel but having your own opinions/ thoughts (not relying solely on what they have to say), not making decisions when angry, taking as much time as needed to figure things out, reflecting/ asking yourself questions, having faith in your gut and striving to ensure that you are happy with your choice(s).
‘Never base your life decisions on advice from people who will never have to deal with the results’.
‘When you need to make a hard decision, flip a coin. Why? Because when that coin is in the air, you suddenly know what you’re hoping for’.
Here’s to life and accepting that things are difficult and decisions are hard to make, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.
Here’s to growth and learning.
Happy decision making!
Until next week
Love, light and blessings